Behavior Modification Model

The Behavior Modification model of Parent Coaching is the reality version of “Supper Nanny.” This is for parents who are having difficulty with a child aged 0 through 5 years. The Behavior Modification model is effective for tackling specific problems such as eating and sleeping issues, discipline, potty training hang ups, sibling rivalry, aggression, impulse control issues, and the challenges inherent in the setting of boundaries with young children.

Depending upon the issues, the Behavioral Modification model requires between five and ten hours of actual coaching, and ideally would take place over a period of about one week. Coaching takes place in the client’s home, and includes both parents. The Behavioral model is also open to as many secondary care givers as possible, including; nannies, au pairs, day care providers, and any friends or relatives that have a frequent and active role in caring for the child.

Coaching Format Behavior Modification Model

Session #1- Discovery
Time- One to two hours.
Participants- All Parents and primary care givers, but without the child.
Goals- identifying and defining the issues, including; the type and extent of the problem behaviors, environmental influences and triggers, predictable patterns, and what the desired outcome will be.

Session #2- Observation *Optional*
Time- two hours
Participants- One or two of the parents/ care givers that are having the most difficulty with the child, and the child.
Goals- For the Coach to observe the child in action, get a clear take on the child’s temperament, and gain insights as to the child’s motives and triggers around their problem behavior.

Session #3- Education and Strategy
Time- Between one and three, one hour sessions
Participants- All Parents and primary care givers, but without the child.
Goals- First, to supply parents with any and all information they need to understand what is driving their child’s undesirable behaviors, and what will be required to change those behaviors. Second, to develop practical strategies to initiate change.

Session #4- Implementation *Optional*
Time- two hours
Participants- One or two of the parents/ care givers that are having the most difficulty with the child, and the child.
Goals- For the coach to be on hand, and walk the care giver through the application of the previously developed strategies.

Session #5- follow up
Time- one hour
Participants- All parents and primary care givers, but without the child.
Goals- To review and fine tune strategies, and to celebrate!

Systems Modification Model

The System Modification model of Parent Coaching serves a different purpose than the Behavior Modification model. This model looks at parenting as a part of a system, influenced by external and internal forces. That system can be shaped and altered an any number of ways. The System Modification model of Parent Coaching is for individuals or couples, whom are responsible for children of any age, and that are searching for hope, clarity, cohesion, or new direction in their parenting. Challenges in Parenting are not unusual, but sometimes we find ourselves faced with the kinds of challenges that force us to rethink our parenting role. System Modification can help with situations such as:

• Parenting Fatigue (feeling overwhelmed, under supported, or just plain lost)
• The discovery that a child has a physical or learning disability
• The necessity of discovering a new identity as a single parent, when marriage ends
• Taking on the complexities of parenting a child from the extended, or blended family
• Grappling with the rapid changes and demands of parenting an adolescent

Depending on the issues, The System Modification model of Parent Coaching takes between five and fifteen hours of actual coaching, meeting one hour a week. Coaching can take place in your home, or a neutral place. The Systems Modification model offers the flexibility of phone sessions, after the initial meeting, for those who have child care conflicts, or are too far away to meet in person easily. The goal of the System Modification model is to keep up with change, and create ease in the job of parenting. The System Modification model uses it’s Life Coaching origins to breathe new life and energy into the parenting role, and rediscover the joy that can carry us through the challenges.

Coaching Format System Modification Model

Part #1- Discovery
Duration- one to three, one hour sessions
Goal- To explore all the angles of your situation, including; road blocks, hurdles, pitfalls and fears, resources, talents, strengths, support systems, opportunities, and options.

Part #2- Dream
Duration- One to two, one hour sessions
Goal- to define your very own “preferred future.” Including, but not limited to, what you want your relationship with your child to look and feel like.

Part #3- Design
Duration- two to six, one hour sessions
Goal- To start making the Dream into reality. To design a game plan, and start taking the steps necessary to reach your own, personally defined “preferred future.”

Part #4- Destiny
Duration- One to four, one hour sessions
Goal- To nurture and grow the new and improved reality.

Is the Systems Modification Model for you? If you are unsure please feel free to take advantage of our free introductory session. That way, you can be certain that this model is the best one for you.